Tending Our Heart to Love Theirs

DSC02537You love your child a bunch, more than you can put into words. You know there’s a big age and maturity difference between you. You even “get” why he does or says some things. So why is it that we react critically, or even meanly, sometimes, yet other times we don’t?

The short answer is – the condition of our heart. The medium answer is – A lot happens in the day; our heart records all of it, and some recordings need to be edited out. Here’s my longer answer to explain.

One day can hold sweet moments like a hug, a thoughtful text, an unexpected ‘Thanks, Mom’, an adorably mischievous grin, laughter, or obedience. That same day might include a rude remark, a disrespectful tone, an ungrateful attitude, a mean face, or a disappointing decision.

Hours, then days pass in a blur. We live forward, our mind focused to what’s next. More positive and negative experiences occur. Some we deal with and others we don’t. We teach, correct, and forgive our child. We’re prayerful, trying to depend on God for help and guidance. And then we lose it.

The ugly comes out. Why?

DSC02538Our heart hurts. First, we are women. We have feelings and our feelings get hurt. Being a mom is a major role in our life. However, if we see our self solely as a mom with responsibilities, we might unintentionally neglect our self as a person with a heart.

“For I will restore health to you, and your wounds I will heal, declares the LORD.” (Jeremiah 30.17a)

Our kids don’t plan to hurt or disappoint us. They try to practice what we’ve taught; sometimes they hit the mark and other times they don’t – just like us.

DSC02536You may have forgiven your child, but have you unloaded your feelings and experience to God and then invited him to heal your heart? When God heals, he restores and builds our heart stronger.

“The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters. He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.” (Psalm 23.1-3)

Holy God, You alone know all that my heart has recorded. Please show me what I need to unload to you. Thank you for your healing love. Amen.

Here’s Video 07 and the Audio 07! I pray that you’re encouraged and strengthened. Please tap one of the icons below and share with your friends!

Peeking in Prayer, Glimpsing Glory

IMG_0747Images of all sorts provide memory of the days surrounding Terrell’s heart attack. Thankfully, powerful evidences of God going before us all along the way eclipse the scary images.

One beautiful picture imprints my heart. Before our kids left the hospital for the night, we gathered around Terrell to pray for him. Kneeling and standing, we held Terrell and each prayed for him, thanking and praising God. Briefly, I opened my eyes. To see our kids bowed to their heavenly Father, asking and trusting him to complete the work of Terrell’s healing overwhelmed my heart. O God, what you’ve done… O God, what you’ve given us.

My weary heart soared with quiet joy. “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.” (3 John 1.4)

God has done it. Grown and shaped their hearts.

Over a lot of years, I’ve had the privilege to partner with God to follow his leading to raise them with Terrell. You have this privilege, too. In each parent-child relationship, God is always at work in both of us. He grows 2 hearts and shapes 2 wills. As he refines us, he guides us in shaping our children.

In Video #4 we consider how God gets our attention when we’re willful and how we can mirror his example with our children. I hope you’ll invite a friend or two to watch with you! Thank you for sharing the videos to your Facebook and Twitter friends, too.

The Will: God’s, Ours and the Child’s

Scan_20Wow! Thank you for your responses about Video #1 of “The Will: God’s, Ours and the Child’s”. I know you’re busy and have plenty of choices for how to spend your time.  You bless me.

Even more, what’s super exciting is how many of you shared that you’re inviting others to watch the videos as a group! That will be fun and – I guarantee — FULL of laughter!

I’m praying for you. In fact, there’s a group specifically praying for you – whether you’re watching on your own, with a friend, or with a group.

If you’re visiting here for the first time (welcome!), you can go to the Video Series tab where you’ll find questions for each video.

So, here’s Video #2.
Let me know what stirs your heart. It would be fun to get a conversation going!