Gaining a Child’s Respect

dsc00336A few years back I asked Mom what she remembers of the hard parts of raising my 3 brothers and me. She didn’t hesitate and said, “Y’all are wonderful. I couldn’t be prouder. I only have good memories of each one of you.”

It wasn’t the answer I expected. Her memories of me are better than my memories of me. When I expressed surprise, her response gave clarity, “Besides, you were children.”

Besides, you were children. Without a doubt, my brothers and I wore Mom out some days. She remembers VICTORIES, not the draining skirmishes.

dsc00337Our first experience with disrespect from a child throws us off. It’s like a switch got flipped:  I don’t know what’s happened. . .  He used to just do what I said. . .  I know she hears me when I call her. . .  Now he uses this tone with me. . .

When we’re in the thick of it—teaching our child to listen, follow rules, obey a direction—it is discouraging and disappointing to receive disrespect. It hurts. However, I don’t think hurt registers first in our heart. We feel frustration; we didn’t get what we want. Or, if we’re really honest, we didn’t get what we think we deserve–respect.

Our child needs us to help him learn what respect is—what it looks like, how it feels to receive it, and what it says to the person he respects. Our home is the primary training ground.

Respect is built. We have to gain our child’s respect. Today, I’ve released the 11th video in “The Will” series. It’s less than 10 minutes, so listen or watch and pass it along to your friends!

Here’s Video #11 Six Practical Ways to Gain a Child’s Respect.

Here’s Audio #11.

Just For You

IMG_0459I love spending time with a group of moms to share, listen, and encourage. A few months ago, I began to release a set of videos that I made just for you. I share personal stories, hard lessons, and God’s sustaining Word. So far, 10 are available on this website and through YouTube. The last 2 will post this summer. The topic is “The Will: God’s, Ours, and the Child’s.” Each segment is about 15 minutes.

When my children were little, finding “me time” was hard. Besides my brief crack-of-dawn quiet time, “me time” meant babies and toddlers were napping or they were old enough to attend a morning class a couple of days a week. Many times I gave this precious time to things that I felt needed to get done. When I gave the time to myself for personal growth and encouragement, I felt refreshed and strengthened–like I was moving forward.

As the kids grew older, more hours became available to me, but I gave them to responsibilities and new commitments. Nothing wrong with those, but momma-friends, we need time for our self. We need space to inhale and exhale s-l-o-w-l-y.  Personal growth and encouragement energize our weary perspective and inspire us to move forward.

I’m inviting you to join me and make your way through the video (or audio) series. Whether your children are grown, teens or toddlers, I think you’ll be encouraged–and challenged a bit. Grab a cup of coffee, fold laundry if you must, take a brisk walk, or listen in your car as you run an errand or wait for a child. Invite a few friends to join you and talk afterwards. If your children are grown, you may know younger moms who would love to have someone like you to discuss the video with them, so they can share their thoughts or struggles.

So, from me to you–Enjoy!

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Audio link
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