How To Give When We Feel Empty

I don’t have anything else to give.
I’m tired of trying.
I’m done.

Do you have anyone in your life who is just hard to love sometimes?  We try. We pray. We seek advice or perspective from others. We try again . ,. and sometimes we get tired of trying.

God knows we are going to struggle to love others sometimes, just like others are going to struggle to love us at times.

We pour out all that is in us—We encourage, help, listen, share time, try to be thoughtful, and express love. Yet, as we pour or give, we empty.  When we experience hurt or offense in the form of absence of appreciation, indifference, criticism, or judgment, it’s like the faucet gets turn on full blast. We’re drained dry. Our feelings of love and our desire to give deplete.

We are not created with a limitless reservoir of love inside. God IS the reservoir. “God is love.” (1 John 4.8b)

“So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.” (1 John 4.16)

We have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us.

Have you come to know God’s love for you?

Do you believe He loves you as much as much as You’ve heard He does?

As we seek to know God, he grows our understanding of how great his love for us is.  It’s humbling to recognize how conditional our feelings can be.  And it’s a relief to discover that God’s love for us and in us is intended to be the means for relationship with others—not how we feel in the moment.

You and I are made to be loved by God.
Say it out loud… I was made to be loved by God.

Slow down and let this truth move from your mind into your heart.  Invite God to sink this amazing truth into the deepest place of your heart—God, You loved me as you formed me, and You want me to enjoy Your love every day.

When we draw deeply from the reservoir of God’s love for us, His love flows through us. He replenishes our exhausted heart.

Filled with God’s love, we can release to Him the hurt or offense, and forgive.

Filled with God’s love, we can experience His healing, strengthening, and grace to begin anew.

Filled with God’s love, we can have a conversation with that person and remain calm.

Filled with God’s love, we can love our child through his rebellious days, just as God loves us through ours. Our child experiences, “I’m for you. I love you. I’m not going anywhere.”

Filled with God’s love, we love WITH HIS LOVE.

God’s love transforms hearts, beginning with ours.  When we draw from His reservoir, and let His love fill us full, it’s His love that overflows to others.

Dear God,
Thank you for your love. Help me come to know and believe more fully your love for me. Please remind me to draw from your unending reservoir of love, and help me be a vessel of Your love. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

The Wonder of God as Witness

Do you ever feel invisible, as though you or your efforts are unseen?
At the same time, do you ever feel relief that no one sees some of the things you think, watch, or do?

“I am the one who knows, and I am witness, declares the LORD.”  (Jeremiah 29.23b)

People we live with, work with, have fun with, share deep things with see us – in part. Some love, forgive, help, hold us accountable, pray. Others judge, criticize, are indifferent, talk. And the same can be true about us toward others – in part, we see.

God alone is the one who KNOWS. God alone is WITNESS. Nothing is unseen by God.  Nothing confounds Him. Nothing changes His Perfect Love for you and me.

He is witness to our hurts and offenses—and how we hurt and offend others. He is witness to our words toward and about others—and others’ words regarding us. He knows when we’re trying to follow His ways—and when we’re willfully choosing our own. He knows our hopes and disappointments, how hard some things are for us, and how we feel about our self. We cannot wear a mask with God. 

“I am the one who knows, and I am witness, declares the LORD.”  (Jeremiah 29.23b)

These words may comfort us or make us uncomfortable.
Embrace both and draw nearer to Him. Be awed and humbled, healed and changed.

God made us for relationship—with Him. Perfect Love shaped you and me. Think about that for a minute. . . Perfect Love held you and your days were written, “…plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” (Jeremiah 29.11b) This has not changed—God continues to hold you; He isn’t rewriting or editing His plans for you or me. Our sovereign Father IS completing His work in and though us, all to His glory.

Dear God,
We are comforted by your deepest knowing and witness to our heart pain. And, we are humbled by all that you know and witness in our heart and life, yet your love never changes. Thank you for Jesus, your amazing grace, that we can know your love in both comfort and in correction. Help us remember that you are with us all through the day and night. Teach us to depend on you and trust you as you fulfill your plans in us. Amen.

To Know You Are Loved Deeply

Happy Mother’s Day to all of you who are moms! I hope you experience a giant glimpse of how cherished you are by those you love!

Whether you’re a mom or not, it’s a blessing to have days when we taste the beautiful love that God has for us.

God knows how you and I wrestle with how we see ourselves. Some days our heart is peaceful, yet other days, the assault of worry, regret, comparison, or feeling inadequate overwhelms us. Often circumstances, or circumstances we imagine, dominate our perspective.

“‘For the mountains may depart and the hills be removed, but my steadfast love shall not depart from you, and my covenant of peace share not be removed,’ says the LORD, who has compassion on you.” (Isaiah 54.10)

Our every thought is seen and each unspoken experience and emotion in our heart is known. . . And God’s love for you and me never changes. Never.

You, my friend, are loved deeply by the Father. Savor this truth and let it soak in to your soul—

YOU are loved deeply.  Uniquely YOU. God designed you differently from every person who has lived before you, who walks the earth now, and who will one day take steps here. YOU, special you, are made by him with delight and for his delight.

“…my steadfast love shall not depart from you”

You ARE loved deeply.  This moment, as you slept last night, in your weaknesses, sadnesses, trials, and joys—God IS pouring perfect love over you. Be still; believe this; receive; and rest in his love for you.

“…my steadfast love shall not depart from you”

You are LOVED deeply.  Perfectly, not conditionally. This is hard to imagine, yet it’s true. Every detail of who you are right now today is covered with God’s grace and blanketed with his love. The part of you that feels unforgivable, ashamed, like a failure, or unworthy—God loves.

“…my steadfast love shall not depart from you”

You are loved DEEPLY.  God’s love heals, comforts, and restores. His love fills cracks and empty places in our heart that life experiences–or absence of these–have made. The power of his love transforms us. Our heavenly Father wants us to step closer to him, to open our heart to receive the fullness of his amazing love.

Dear God,
I want to know the truth of these words fully in the deepest part of my heart—that I am loved deeply by you. I open my heart to you right now. Heal, comfort, and restore me. Fill every crack and empty place with your love. Transform me that I live knowing how deeply I am loved by you. In Jesus’ name. Amen.