Fall is here! The leaves are changing. The temperature outside is refreshing. I love this season. Fall, winter, spring, summer. I used to view seasons that way. Then I had children and I learned from a great teacher to identify other experiences of time as seasons, life seasons. This was actually encouraging to me. Like the seasons of the year, seasons in life will be for a defined time – God’s time – and then each will pass.
Are we going to buy diapers forEVER? When are our boys going to stop fighting and realize they could be good friends? Does my child ever get to have a special friend? Will my child be healed? Is my relationship with my teenager always going to be so strained? Is my relationship with my adult child over? Often we won’t understand God’s timetable for our life seasons because we don’t have His timeless, greater-than-the-universe view. What’s our view? Our view is what we want.
Ever said, “I’m ready for winter to be over!”? As much as we may want winter to end, we cannot end it. God is in charge of this. Our calendar can say it’s the first day of spring, but God is Lord of the weather we’ll have that day… So, do we make the most of the 35 degrees day – or complain?
Just as the Lord is sovereign over the weather seasons, He is sovereign over the length of our life seasons, our children’s life seasons, and each season we’ll walk through with our children. Some we won’t want to end, some are long, and some… we wonder if they’ll ever end! Is there a pattern here?? Yes, WE want to determine or at least know each season’s length!
We want things to happen or change on our timetable. Too often we’re wishing away a season because it’s difficult, challenging, painful, discouraging or all of the above. When we do this, we waste time. Time that God has given to us. There’s a big difference between wishing away a season – and prayer.
God’s not torturing us, waiting to see how much we can endure – of the weather or our child! He’s working. Remember, He’s the Creator and we are His creation.
I’ve had plenty of pity parties, after which I usually pray (or whine), “Lord, when will this end? What else can I do?” Often I’m reminded that sometimes I’m not to “do” anything. I’m to pray the desires of my heart, listen to God, and wait on Him, trusting Who He is.”
With any enduring season, we can pray through it: “Lord, I want to learn and receive all that you have for me in this season. If there’s anything You still desire to accomplish in me, in my child, in our relationship during this season, please help me see and understand and participate with You.”
Why? Because I want to want what the Lord God Almighty wants – for me, my child and our relationship.
“…we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.” (Romans 5.2-5)