How To Pray When Our Mind Is Spinning

Sometimes my mind spins in so many directions that I stress my self out. I can’t focus or settle inside. Then I get frustrated, which seems to fuel my spin pace . . . and I just wanna scream or cry or run away for the day.

. . . There’s that project I need to tackle, but I’m not sure how best to approach it, so I just keep putting it off. There are calls I want or need to make, only I can’t seem to find the right time when there’s enough time to talk. Always, there’s that pile on the counter that I need to just deal with—but, y’all, every time I remove two items, at least four more materialize. What’s with that? And then there are those matters that I simply need to think through, process, and weigh, yet allotting time for those seems to require that I sacrifice  time earmarked for something else. Do you ever feel like this, or is it just me?

So the other day, when I was having one of those days, I vented, God help me! I guess I halfway expected Him to transform everything right there on the spot—which He can do, because He’s God. But that didn’t happen.

What did happen is God got my attention. All along He was with me . . . I just wasn’t with Him. My mind dwelt on the pile of things I needed to do and how inadequate I felt to accomplish most of it.

God waited for me to turn to Him—to take my thoughts and feelings to Him and dwell in Him. All along, He was right there, holding me. Our loving God holds you and me. Do we talk with Him as though He’s holding us? You and I are His Beloved. BELOVED. When this is my approach, I feel secure.
Try it.

When we turn to God, we practice trusting Him. We decide to rely on Him. Instead of leading our way, we ask for His.

“In the morning, Lord, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait expectantly.” (Psalm 5.3)

“When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.” (Psalm 56.3)

“Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your heart before him; God is a refuge for us.” (Psalm 62.8)

Welcome God in to your thoughts—as you drive, wait in a line, take a walk, vacuum, shower, or stare at that pile on the counter.

God, I commit this day to you. Help me be present to your presence today.
God, I am overwhelmed. Please help me unload all this to you.
You are faithful. You are with me. I am your Beloved.

Invite Him to join that conversation. Better yet, ask Him to lead you through—with your boss, a co-worker, your husband, child, a friend.

God, help me only say what you want me to say.
Give me understanding, insight, and grace.
Please heal, strengthen, and grow this relationship your way. 

Include Him as you think through that project or assignment, ponder that looming decision, or consider the best way forward in a challenging relationship.

God, I don’t know how to go forward. I need your wisdom and guidance.
Please protect me.
Help me trust you, discern your will, and follow you.

Live like a lifelong learner. Every day we learn and practice. When we pray, we practice relying on God. We draw near.  Try it.

For When It’s Hard To Be Still

Have you ever noticed how a photograph—of someone you know or a scene of nature—can cause you to be still for a few minutes or longer? It holds a moment in our life or a mesmerizing sample of God’s creation. When my computer screen is idle, my photo collection rolls, and if my husband or I are nearby, it’s inevitable that we just stop and watch and eventually get misty-eyed. The photos stir emotion and memory, gratitude to God, and sometimes reflective words that testify to His character.

“Be still, and know that I am God.” (Psalm 46.10a)

These God-breathed words have arrested my heart countless times. When I’m overwhelmed in a years-long trial or stress is shaking me to the core, God makes this Word known again to my heart. All at once, I feel loved yet humbled. His words comfort me like I might comfort a child. Stop. Remember who I am, how you’ve experienced me, what you’ve read about me—and trust Who I am. He humbles me, too, and I realize I haven’t been still much lately, and the power of my will, mental wrestling, and self-determination are wearing me out.

You and I have opportunities every day to stop, give time to be present to God, and practice experiencing Who He is—and what that means for us. As LORD, He commands us, and as our loving heavenly Father, He guides: Be still, and know that I am God.

His aim is our heart, that we personally know Him as our all-powerful, all-knowing, always present, sovereign God—through firsthand experience in prayer, the scriptures, and being still with him. He calls us to stillness for our good and for His glory.

Be still.  Stop moving, be quiet, and be present. Stop moving our mouth and mind and maybe our body, too. Put down the phone, close the computer, turn off the TV, step away from that project. The rhythm of our work or family life challenges us to believe that we can give up some time to ‘be still.’ Yet, notice God doesn’t say how long. He doesn’t say, Be still for 5 minutes… 30 minutes… once a week. It’s an intriguing invitation and uniquely personal to each of us.

If you go to a presentation that requires your undivided attention, you stop everything else because you don’t want to miss the big moment. If you have a child, you’ve likely told him to be still when you want to tell or show him something significant. God requires our undivided attention, for us to truly know him and trust him.

Be still.  Where? When?  . . .  in the carpool line, while you sit in the bleachers alone, during your lunch break, in a comfy chair with a cup of coffee, or looking at the amazing sky, a flower that’s just bloomed, your child as he sleeps or simply fascinates you. Ask God when and where, and He will show you. He wants this time for you and with you. How? Close your eyes or watch, listen, reflect, wait, praise Him. God is always in our midst; yet in stillness, we step in to holy communion with Him. We obey and show him our love, being still WITH HIM. And He keeps his promise—He grows us to know Him, such that His peace anchors our heart and transcends every matter it carries.

In stillness, insight unfolds. Nature reveals His power and majesty. Quiet makes space for His voice. Reflection transforms hard life stories into testaments of His character.

Dear God,
You are mine and I am yours. You are all I need, my safe place, my strength. Quiet my thoughts now and help me be still. I want to know you. I want to rest in You as God. Amen.

Finding Rhythm

“When our children were very young, I spent too many hours fretting that I didn’t have balance in my life. My time—which no longer felt like my time—was no where near evenly distributed among categories like exercise, time with friends, time for myself, Bible study, time with my husband, and rest. Several of those categories were hit or miss weekly.

After yet another day of stressing over this, I put pursuit of balance on the shelf and decided to pursue a daily rhythm.

Rhythm is pattern and flow. It’s not the same thing as a schedule, but schedule fits into our rhythm. The beauty of rhythm is that it can be as unique as we individually are. We can identify a rhythm design that works for us and works for our home that settles peace in our heart—even when the day is crazy busy or discouragingly hard.

Our rhythm can have variety or change temporarily. For instance, our rhythm on the weekend is likely different from the rhythm of a school day, or the rhythm of our day off is different from the days we work. Circumstances can affect rhythm. When we move to a new city, our rhythm is altered until we are settled. A job change, a new extracurricular activity for a child, or a new special needs circumstance for a child or aging parent makes modifications necessary.

A healthy rhythm reflects attention to our sense of personal order, how we plan, how we communicate, flexibility, and enjoying our life.

Our day is unpredictable to us, never to God. No matter what comes, his peace can anchor us. How we live the day affects our antennae for God’s peace. Cultivating rhythm—pattern and flow—helps.”

This is the beginning of a chapter in Becoming A Peaceful Mom. Go HERE to read more.

Do you or does someone you know crave peace? Read Becoming A Peaceful Mom and learn to partner with God. Grow stronger and more confident and begin to see yourself the way God sees you—as a woman, as a mom and as his child.